Whatever Happened to Love Songs?

I admit, I wasn’t big into love songs growing up. However, as I’ve gotten older I’ve come to really appreciate them. Mind you, I know the lifestyles of many of the musicians of my generation were not puritanical—far from. Still, there was a recognition of love and commitment. Whatever happened to love songs—songs about cherishing, valuing, and being committed to another? Consider some of the following lines:

“I meant every word I said when I said that I loved you I meant that I loved you forever.” ~ Keep On Loving You by REO Speedwagon

“Love me tomorrow like today, love me tomorrow, hurry back, can’t you see I need you much more than yesterday?” ~ Love Me Tomorrow by Chicago

“I will always love you, I would never leave you alone … I am a man who will fight for your honor.” ~ Glory of Love by Peter Cetera

“You came along and stole my heart when you entered my life. Ooh, babe, you got what it takes, so I made you my wife. Since then I never looked back. It’s almost like living a dream. And, oooh, I love you.” ~ I Love You by Climax Blues Band

“You are so beautiful to me, can’t  you see? You’re everything I hoped for, you’re everything I need. You are so beautiful to me.” ~ You Are So Beautiful by Joe Cocker

“I just called to say I love you. I just called to say I care. ~ I Just Called to Say I Love You by Stevie Wonder

“When my soul was in the lost and found, you came along to claim it … You make me feel like a natural woman.” ~ A Natural Woman by Aretha Franklin

Today’s love songs are often “break-up” songs. What’s worse is the fact many songs are simply about getting in the sack with someone then leaving without any commitment. Worse still are raunchy songs using derogatory terms in reference to women. Still, not long ago a controversial song came out by a women who sang about the condition of her crotch (to put it mildly).

Our society bemoans the fact it’s breaking down. But what should we expect when so many ridicule—and even scorn—devotion, faithfulness, and commitment? Why should there be surprise when people—especially girls—are viewed not as persons but  objects, or when guys aren’t respected if they’re “nice guys” who have standards, or children are viewed as mistakes and inconveniences?

Emotionally healthy families, love, faithfulness, and fidelity makes stronger and healthier communities, but to neglect these vital elements certainly erodes the foundation and stability of any society.

Let not steadfast love and faithfulness forsake you; bind them around your neck; write them on the tablet of your heart. So you will find favor and good success in the sight of God and man. ~ Proverbs 3:3-4

Whoever despises his neighbor is a sinner, but blessed is he who is generous to the poor. Do they not go astray who devise evil? Those who devise good meet steadfast love and faithfulness. ~ Proverbs 14:21-22